Lies of Children - Reason and Significance of Lies and How to Recognize Them
The latest research has shown that children of four years are already capable of lying, and they do not is simple apology or confusion between reality and fantasy (as is the case during previous evolutionary), but the deliberate attempt to deceive the adult, usually to avoid punishment.
At this age the child does the lie as reprehensible in every situation and feels much the weight of subsequent punishment, the parent fact is perceived as omnipotent and therefore able to know if one is lying small. But this reverence does not last long; children soon discover that can pass smooth, at least sometimes.
In ten years, but sometimes even before, children do not always wrong to lie, there are circumstances and situations where the lie is accepted: “If someone asks you if you like your hair and you do not like to say a lie”.
Asking children what happens when they say a lie, between four and nine years the most frequent reply is: the punishment. At this age punishment still works as a deterrent of lies.
Among children of eleven years instead almost half the states that lie destroys confidence in the other.
At this age most children developed a discrete skills in a lie, no longer happens so easily betray you leave the stamp of voice, by face, glaring contradictions logical or absurd excuse.
As it gradually become more clever to say lies, the boys become even more clever to recognize: the Mother’s weak excuses not to attend the school provides, or the dad who wants to believe that he cried because he was not angry but to be felt television was turned on, are things that boys do not accept more blindly.
But how can recognize the lies? Are there any behavioral clues that can help us.
- Sometimes the evidence is what the child says, the story is too strange, inconsistent or directly contradicted by the facts clear.
- Often, the clue is the inconsistency between what is said and how it says: the sound of voice, facial expression and movement of the hands may not correspond to words.
- The liar may also have looked guilty, too excited to be entirely credible.
